Hey, Jealousy...
This post is directed toward a certain type of man. The type who gets insecure everytime they find out that their girlfriend hung out with or talked to one of their guy friends, yet feel that they should be allowed to talk to and hang out with their female friends at any time. If that's you, keep reading. If that's not you then keep reading anyway because maybe you'll at least be entertained.
I have a few female friends who are dating this type of man and it's driving them crazy. First, I'll tell you about Colleen: Colleen usually calls me at least a couple of times a week crying because her boyfriend got on her because she talked to or hung out with her friend Chris. Oh, but it gets better: Her boyfriend, B.J., LIVES WITH HIS EX GIRLFRIEND and helps take care of her kid (basically he plays the father figure). Digest that for a minute... HIS EX. Yet he doesn't trust his girlfriend to hang out with her guy friends? Please.
My other friend, Rebecca, is pretty much in the same boat but hers is a little different: She took her boyfriend, James, to meet her parents today. After all of that, Rebecca and James go to her room to watch a movie and he spent almost the entire time texting one of his female friends. Yet, if Rebecca hangs out with or talks to one of her guy friends, James throws a little temper tantrum. Both Colleen and Rebecca are on the verge of breaking up with their respective boyfriends because of all of this. To their boyfriends and all guys like this, I say:
GET A DAMN GRIP!
Seriously, you want to be able to hang out with your woman friends and talk to them whenever you want, yet you throw a fit like a two year old if your girlfriend talks to one of her guy friends. Here's a newsflash: There are lots of girls who have guys for most of their friends, just as there are a lot of guys (like me) who have mostly girls for friends. You must deal with this and accept it. It's not like they're out cheating on you when they hang out with their guy friends. There are some that do cheat but 99ON'T. If you don't accept this, you'll only run them off. And then you'll bitch because your single and you can't get a girlfriend... then the process will begin again. Why? Because you bring it on yourself.
Grow up. That's how simply I can put it. Accept that guys and girls have friends of the opposite sex and they, like you, would like to be able to hang out with and talk to these said friends. Otherwise, if you have a problem with it, don't expect to be allowed to hang out with your female friends. It's not a one way street, it's two. In other words, start trust your girl... before she gives you a reason not to. They be a great girlfriend... but piss her off enough and she'll be a damn good ho for someone else.
And advice for the ladies: If you're with this kind of guy, give him a choice: Grow up or lose you. You shouldn't have to put up with this bullshit. Go find a real man who will actually trust you. You deserve nothing less.
Hopefully you've gained some insight and maybe decided to grow the hell up. Comment and let me know how you feel about this.
--Jonathan
I have a few female friends who are dating this type of man and it's driving them crazy. First, I'll tell you about Colleen: Colleen usually calls me at least a couple of times a week crying because her boyfriend got on her because she talked to or hung out with her friend Chris. Oh, but it gets better: Her boyfriend, B.J., LIVES WITH HIS EX GIRLFRIEND and helps take care of her kid (basically he plays the father figure). Digest that for a minute... HIS EX. Yet he doesn't trust his girlfriend to hang out with her guy friends? Please.
My other friend, Rebecca, is pretty much in the same boat but hers is a little different: She took her boyfriend, James, to meet her parents today. After all of that, Rebecca and James go to her room to watch a movie and he spent almost the entire time texting one of his female friends. Yet, if Rebecca hangs out with or talks to one of her guy friends, James throws a little temper tantrum. Both Colleen and Rebecca are on the verge of breaking up with their respective boyfriends because of all of this. To their boyfriends and all guys like this, I say:
GET A DAMN GRIP!
Seriously, you want to be able to hang out with your woman friends and talk to them whenever you want, yet you throw a fit like a two year old if your girlfriend talks to one of her guy friends. Here's a newsflash: There are lots of girls who have guys for most of their friends, just as there are a lot of guys (like me) who have mostly girls for friends. You must deal with this and accept it. It's not like they're out cheating on you when they hang out with their guy friends. There are some that do cheat but 99ON'T. If you don't accept this, you'll only run them off. And then you'll bitch because your single and you can't get a girlfriend... then the process will begin again. Why? Because you bring it on yourself.
Grow up. That's how simply I can put it. Accept that guys and girls have friends of the opposite sex and they, like you, would like to be able to hang out with and talk to these said friends. Otherwise, if you have a problem with it, don't expect to be allowed to hang out with your female friends. It's not a one way street, it's two. In other words, start trust your girl... before she gives you a reason not to. They be a great girlfriend... but piss her off enough and she'll be a damn good ho for someone else.
And advice for the ladies: If you're with this kind of guy, give him a choice: Grow up or lose you. You shouldn't have to put up with this bullshit. Go find a real man who will actually trust you. You deserve nothing less.
Hopefully you've gained some insight and maybe decided to grow the hell up. Comment and let me know how you feel about this.
--Jonathan
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